“Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body.” Ephesians 4:25
Truth. Transparency. Honesty. They are all one and the same.
What would happen if we were all a bit more transparent? I don’t mean say whatever you feel, no matter who may be watching transparency, but the kind that allows us to admit our faults, struggles, and weaknesses to each other. What would happen if we allowed each other a tiny glimpse into our lives?
This is a question that God has placed on my mind lately. As I walk further along this journey He has set out for me, His voice often reminds me that if I feel called to assist others in their struggles as a Minister of God, and a counselor, I have to be able to be completely honest about myself. Certainly people would be more willing to to open up about their own lives if they had someone to talk to that would honestly say, “Hey, I have been there too! I stumble. I fall. I have joys, sorrows, struggles, and triumphs.
I am just like you.”
What if we admitted these truths to each other?
Paul in Galatians 6:2 instructs everyone to “share each other’s burdens.” Yet, how can we achieve this if we are too afraid to speak about our burdens; if we cannot be honest about our fears and failures, instead of our successes? We cannot empathize with our Christian brothers and sisters if we are not willing to get “dirty” every once in a while and engage in a real heart to heart conversation without the fluff of happiness and smiles.
“Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.” Romans 12:15
We all want to feel and believe that we are not alone in the midst of whatever challenges we face. We want someone to understand what we are going through, how we feel, and what we think about the world in which we live. However, we often can’t get past our need, especially those of us who are mothers, to look like we have it all together.
Admitting our messes and failures? Are you crazy?
The answer to that question is debatable at times, but I do know God does not want me to put on a plastic smile, and pretend that everything is going great. Instead He calls me to confess with my mouth my life’s struggles and triumphs, not just for me, but “so that you can live together whole and healed” (James 5:16).
My transparency may not only be God’s way of helping me be honest with myself and others, but His way of letting someone else know that they are not alone. It could be His way of letting a weary, frazzled mother who thinks everyone else has it all together, be reminded: “See, my child, she is just like you.”