“Costumes” and a Little Boy’s Lesson on Self-Acceptance

“You are the light of the world-like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden.” Matthew 5:13


“I am being nothing! I am dressing as Hunter!” “What about your shark mask?” I kindly plead with my four year old son. “No! Nothing! I am going as Hunter!”

That is right. Hunter is adamantly boycotting the custom of wearing a costume on Halloween. As a child with sensory processing issues, he often has a hard time relenting to our demands of wearing anything that buttons, anything that covers his face, or anything that requires tugging on, pulling on, or tying on! For the past few years he has managed to wear at least part of his costumes sans hat, crown, or whatever head or face adornment that came with the Halloween duds…but, not this year. This year, he is going to be Hunter.

“I don’t need to dress up to get candy. I am going as Hunter!”

I can never get away from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence! I could ask the darkness to hide me and the light around me to become night-but even in darkness I cannot hide from you. Psalm 139:7, 11-12

There are times as parents we feel we miss out on holidays and most things other kids enjoy, like Halloween and getting dressed up in a fancy new costume; but Hunter is forever teaching us through his quirks-and once again…well, he has a point!

Through his refusal I hear: “I don’t have to be anyone else to be accepted. I’m going to be myself.”

Yet, each year we buy new costumes. We dress up as something or someone else. Yes, it can also be pretty fun, but how many times does the urge to be someone different transfer into our daily lives? To what extremes do we go to change who we are, to hide our faults, and to attempt to hide who we truly are from the outside world. We do this to seek acceptance from those around us, those who are only seeing the “costume” we decided to wear to fit in, instead of allowing them to see the person God created.

“I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart.” Jeremiah 1:5

God knows us inside and out. “Every moment was laid out,” and every day of our lives were recorded long before we were ever born (Psalm 139). We can put on any costume or covering we want in an attempt to be someone else, but we cannot change the fact that God loves us just as we are.

Even if we refuse to wear our Halloween costume. Through a four year-old’s refusal to wear his costume, I learn that we don’t need to pretend we are someone else to gain God’s acceptance and grace.

So, this Halloween, and every day after I am going to be myself too. From now on, I am going as January.


5 responses to ““Costumes” and a Little Boy’s Lesson on Self-Acceptance”

  1. Loved this January! Thanks for sharing.

  2. So sweet! Once again, I love the way you process everyday circumstances and allow god to teach you! Blessings, Crystal

    1. And boy does this child know how to teach! 🙂 thanks so much for reading and your encouragement!

  3. […] has become just another “interesting” event in our home. While our youngest child refuses to have anything to do with costumes (although he does not refuse the candy), our little girl cannot wait to dress up as someone […]

  4. Reblogged this on Coffee with a Shot of Faith and commented:

    After being asked this morning, “Where is your costume?” I can totally understand my son’s desire to simply be himself. Costumes are fun, but being who He has made me to be is so much better!

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