The king is pleased with words from righteous lips; he loves those who speak honestly. Proverbs 16:13
The boy above…the one with the laughing eyes, cool as a cucumber demeanor, and mile wide grin also happens to be the example of brutal honesty. Honest to a fault at times. Honest enough to even get himself in trouble!
Our 5 and 6 year old share a room. Unfortunately for Hayley, Hunter insists on this. Unfortunately for Mommy and Daddy this means more giggles at night than actual sleep. Giggles are always pleasant to hear. They are far more pleasant than the bickering these two are usually engaged in on a daily basis. Sometimes giggles also get out of hand. Sometimes Mommy and Daddy have to intervene. Sometimes we have to investigate the shenanigans that keep two little kids from much needed slumber.
And to find out what is really going on, we only need to ask one little fellow.
“We’re just making shadow puppets!” Right about the time big sister shouts an emphatic, “Nothing…”
Who does that? What kid really tells the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth? Well, this little guy for one. And many more little guys and girls on the autism spectrum. While many of the symptoms and oddities we have to contend with like meltdowns, rigid routines, and obsessive interests can be intolerable, honesty-true honesty-is probably one of the traits we enjoy the most.
One I could also use more of in my own life, conversations, and relationships.
Sure, Hunter’s idea of honesty may be telling someone with all sincerity that their legs look bigger, or their belly looks funny (Trust me. I know this first hand!), and this type of honesty is not exactly what we want to hear or even say to others, but having the tough conversations, confronting someone who may need to hear a few words of wisdom or encouragement is even advocated by Paul:
Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ. Ephesians 4:15
Yet, we pull the wool over our own eyes, tell our friend, co-worker, family members that it is alright to engage in a particular activity, or to feel a certain way. We tell ourselves it is alright to do and feel the same things. We are afraid of the consequences of our being completely honest with each other, with ourselves.
We are too afraid to get in trouble, feel ridiculed, or get our feelings hurt.
Just as Hunter does when he insists his sister is kidding, because they really are playing flashlight tag, we must be honest with God, too. We must come before God and admit we too are sinners. We failed. We lied. We spoke in anger. We slandered a friend. We messed up. We played shadow puppets in the dark.
As David indicates in Psalm 139:23-24, I want God to search me, and know my anxious thoughts. I want Him to point out anything in me that offends, and lead me along the path of everlasting life. I want Him to guide me in the way of honesty.
Lord, Help me to be more like Hunter. Honest and open with you. Please search my heart daily, Lord and reveal anything that does not give you glory. In Jesus name. Amen.