Ugh! Go away! Get out of here! You are so annoying.
A day in the life of sibling rivalry. And it seems to happen a lot here while both deal with the changes that come with growing up.
“You go back in there. She is going to fix how she just spoke to you.” It’s what I ask each to do when they repeat things that are often hurtful.
But children are not the only ones who can hurt. Adults often do, too.
And what is it about us that has this tendency to get into a battle of words? Misspoken words.
Anger. Frustration. We feel ignored. Not taken seriously. Our emotions take over and eventually the spirit we asked to come guide us through our words. To help us choose them wisely, often don’t come out the way He intended.
They come out because we feel a need to fight back. And they come out all wrong.
They sometimes hurt.
So, like I tell my kids. How do we go back and fix it?
Sometimes, it takes simply being honest. Being sincere and saying the words you wished you had said instead. The ones He directed you to say.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29
Maybe what was said wasn’t of benefit in the moment. Maybe what was meant to come out was something so different.
Something like this:
I pray for you everyday. All day long, actually. I pray that you will be kind and loving. I pray that I can model these characteristics for you. I pray that you will be you and not everyone else. I pray that you have everything you need. I’m sorry. I love you.